21 10 / 2014
02 9 / 2014
You go, through certain experiences in life that causes change in your perception of those you call your friends, those you form a romantic relationship with, and those in your family. Your values do not change, but they become so much of a reality that you are left with picking and choosing, wisely, what you allow of those you care for. Relationships are not one sided until what you are showing to another person is not being given back, when mutuality of values is gone. If you want to be shown a certain kind of treatment, you have to illustrate it first, and when you aren’t getting it in return, walk away. But, first, don’t forget to be honest and assert to yourself what it is you want, and how it is you want to be treated. Although, it may seem simple and obvious that you should be treated rightfully, justifiably, not everyone can clearly read your mind, or has the same frame of thoughts as you do. Not everyone shares your perception. Once, you’ve illustrated and asserted your perception, wants, and need, it should be freely illustrated back to you by those you care for. Those who love you, regardless of their own opinion, will respect your boundaries, right away, without question. But, try not to confuse your boundaries with your insecurities. At times, your insecurities are fears that take over your vision on what’s rightful and justifiable, which you aren’t dealing, and by asking others to shift themselves, change their ways, around your insecurities, will only leave them feeling constricted and heavily limited to the point where they haven’t a choice but to step back from you. Also, you have to realize that no one is responsible for your insecurities, but yourself. Do not ask your loved ones to change themselves in order for you to better maintain your insecurity, but, instead, ask yourself and your loved ones to help you be free from those insecurities.
31 8 / 2014
"If you make your bed, don’t only lie in it, but get up and make your bed again!"